“So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has
joined together, let no one separate." Matthew 19:6
What’s the longest marriage you’ve
ever heard of? Did you wonder what made that couple stay committed for so long? If you’ve
ever asked a wife who’s been married for 20+ years what made her stay, she’s not likely to say his
good looks or his skills in the bedroom. So why do so many
of us select who we’re going to marry based on how good he
looks or how great he is in bed? Choosing a mate based solely on these qualities are a sure way to end up in divorce court. If you’re recently engaged or on the dating
front line, this CC’s Pieces is going to serve it to you straight!
{MY LESSON}
MARRIAGE IS REAL. Now what comes
after “REAL” is what you make it. Real “fun”. Real “hard”. You and your spouse
get to define what that is. When Tristen and I first got married, marriage for
me was real “different”. I had to adjust to a lot of new things—sharing space
with someone (I’m an only child), learning how to be submissive, having to
learn a whole new person, etc. But the one lesson that I had to learn quickly
was that divorce was not an option. I’ll be honest, in the beginning, it was easier
said than done. Running away can seem like the best option when things aren’t
going as planned. But we have to make a decision to
not allow divorce to be an option, and to this day, we don’t mention the word
in our home.
What makes marriage so different
from any other human relationship is that it is designed to be a lifelong
commitment. There are no other relationships referenced in the Bible where we are
commanded to be committed for a lifetime to someone—not to our parents, not to
our children, not to our friends, not to our boss. Only to our spouse. How do
you stay committed to one person for so long in this day and time? It’s a
choice. Every day, you choose to work through the issues. Every day, you choose to
love your spouse unconditionally. Every day, you choose to live selflessly for
the betterment of your marriage.
{PUT IT INTO ACTION}
1. Divorce is not an option. Don’t even
allow the word to escape your mouth or enter your home. Marriage is a selfless
commitment, and divorce has no place in selflessness. Yes, times may get
extremely hard where divorce seems to be the only option. But know that God
wants you to seek wise counsel during those times. He wants your marriage to make it.
2. Stay. Don’t run away. When you run into
obstacles or conflicts in your marriage, what do you normally automatically do?
Do you get upset? Do you leave the house? Do you place the blame on him? Or do
you work it out together?
3. Plan
for the future. Where do you see your marriage five, ten years from now?
Share your vision with your spouse to make sure you both share the same hopes
and dreams.
4. Pray. Pray. Pray! God never intended
for us to do marriage alone. This is a team effort, and you’re definitely going
to need Him to help you through the journey. Take the time to pray together
daily-- even if you're short on time.
Your marriage is what you make of it. There’s no such thing
as a perfect one. But just remember…
Marriage is a
lifelong commitment, not a lackadaisical convenience.
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