Wives. Set the Mood Right.

A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands. – Proverbs 14:1

 

After a long day at work taking care of client’s needs, interviewing candidates, and jumping in and out of conference calls, I am on “E”. But, there’s no greater compliment that I can think of than when Tristen comes home and says, “I’m so glad I get to come home to you and a peaceful home every night.” When I shared with him that I intentionally create a serene atmosphere for our home, he seemed surprised (I think he thought it just happened through osmosis!).

If you’re a wife, you know it takes work to set the right mood for your home, especially if you lead an equally busy life as your spouse and you have kiddos to keep up with.

{MY LESSON}

One thing that my mom told me when I first became a wife was, “As the wife, you create the atmosphere for your home.” This meant more than just keeping a tidy house because one can have a house that is visibly clean, but spiritually filthy. This really meant that it was my responsibility to ensure that our home had the right spirit dwelling inside. Ultimately, as the overseer of our home, if there is a spirit of discord, anger or confusion, it is our duty as the wife to find a way to eliminate it.

{PUT IT INTO ACTION}

Here are a few ways that I create a peaceful atmosphere in our home that you may find helpful and fitting for your home:

1.  Play music that promotes love, calming thoughts, and positive conversation. Try to keep loud, non-gratifying music to a minimum. Music affects our mood more than we know!

-  We keep our radio tuned to 105.7 FM KHCB, a Christian radio station, 24 hours a day playing softly in the background. This station is on while we’re at work, when we come home in the evenings and while we’re sleeping, it’s still covering our home.  105.7 FM covers an array of topics dealing with marriage, singlehood, parenting, taking care of elderly parents, mental health and more.

-  When we’re getting dressed for a night out, I always play “love music”. My favorites include Frankie Beverly, Maze, Kem, The Isley Brothers, Anthony Hamilton, The Foreign Exchange, Daley, and Phil Collins. Save your favorites and jam with your sweetie!

2. Burn fragranced candles/incense that are calming, like lavender, cool air breeze, warm vanilla, and clean linen. (Be careful not to choose a harsh fragrance that can flare up allergies!)

-  Every year at the Texas Renaissance Festival, I stock up on their incense. They have such a wide assortment where you can buy 100-packs for $20. I also enjoy buying soy candles because they last longer and the smell is more pronounced.

3. Encourage him to spend time alone.

-  Time apart is just as important as time together. When he’s catching up on his favorite t.v. show, I’m working on my blog. As much as my husband and I enjoy our time together, our time apart provides relaxation, mental stimulation, and time to reflect. And when we come back together, we have renewed energy, an appreciation for one another’s presence, and new ideas to share!  

There are also added benefits to setting the mood right in your home:

·  Keeps everyone’s stress level low

·  Relaxes the mind and body

·  Encourages conversation

·  Promotes intimacy

·  Creates an enjoyable habitat for everyone to coexist

Wives, when we set the mood right , it creates a healthy balance in our marriage. In what ways do you set the mood right in your home?

Wives, Set the Mood Right.

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