“She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.” –Proverbs 31:12
Consistency. How do you measure up in this area? Can your spouse count on you to do what you say you’re going to do? Proverbs 31:12 says that a virtuous woman brings her husband good ALL the days of her life, not just only when she’s in a good mood or only when her husband is acting right. Being consistent can be a challe...nge at times with so many variables competing for our time, attention and emotions. But in dating and in marriage, consistency is vital.
{MY LESSON LEARNED}
{MY LESSON LEARNED}
For me, consistency was a large factor in why I married Tristen. “I’m going to call you when I get off work.” He always called. “I’ll be there for your function.” He always showed. It’s easy for people to do kind things for one another during the first few months of dating, but the true test is time. As the days turn into months and the months roll on into years, some people start to slack off and take their mate for granted. If you’re currently dating, now is the best time for you and your beau to start learning how to be consistent.
Don’t wait until you’ve exchanged vows to start putting this good habit to work because it will be harder then. If you say you’re going to do something, follow thru. If you’re currently buying roses for her every day, you better make sure you set up a budget to continue because she will expect the same treatment even after the “I do’s”!
{PUT IT INTO ACTION}
If you’re the one who struggles with consistency and frequently find yourself backing out of commitments, work on it. This used to be a challenge for me because I would find myself overcommitting my time. I wanted to do it all! But we can’t, and God doesn’t expect us to either. Here are a few things I did to help in this area:
1. Don't commit right away. When someone asks you to do something, get as much detail as you can upfront about the commitment. The day, time, duration, and any other significant details that will help you make a final decision. Then simply say, “Okay, sounds great. Let me check on what I have planned that day and get back to you.” And then be sure to follow-up with an answer.
2. Give a gracious no. Just because you say “no”, it doesn’t make you a mean person. It makes you a balanced person and people respect you more when you say “no” rather than commit to something and then back out. The Bible says let your “yes” be yes and your “no” be no. (Matthew 5:37)
3. Stop feeling bad! Romans 8:1 tells us that there is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. So this means that we can’t allow others to make us feel bad when we don’t commit to doing what they want.
Just like you need consistency, your spouse is counting on you to be mentally stable, dependable and present in the relationship. Inconsistency leads to unnecessary anxiety, fear and confrontation. Create a safe place for your spouse by offering consistency every day.
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