WHY ARE YOU SO SELFISH?! Hopefully you've never been called selfish before, but chances are, you probably have. Why? Because by nature, humans are selfish creatures. We have to CHOOSE to not be. The same applies in our relationship with our spouse.
{MY LESSON}
Tristen and I are both only children (yeah, continue to keep us lifted Saints!). So naturally, in the beginning of our marriage, we leaned more towards taking care of our own needs first. But as our relationship evolved and we started to gain wisdom on how to make this work, we came to the realization that if we both put each other's needs first, no one will go lacking. So what does that look like? A few examples:
{MY LESSON}
Tristen and I are both only children (yeah, continue to keep us lifted Saints!). So naturally, in the beginning of our marriage, we leaned more towards taking care of our own needs first. But as our relationship evolved and we started to gain wisdom on how to make this work, we came to the realization that if we both put each other's needs first, no one will go lacking. So what does that look like? A few examples:
{PUT IT INTO ACTION}
- Before I leave the house, I ask Tristen, "Is there anything you need before I leave?" This is my way of letting him know that I want to make sure he's okay before I take care of my personal agenda.
- We both have fast-paced occupations that leave us drained at the end of the day. But when he gets home, I offer a quick back rub to help him settle into the evening. He reciprocates the gesture whenever he sees I've had a rough day. (Note: a quick back rub can be done while standing and doesn't have to take much time).
- If I'm going into a particular room in the house to get something, I ask him, "Do you need me to bring you back anything?" 99% of the time, he answers "yes", which means had I not asked, he likely would not have said anything.
- Intimacy is so important. For many, that's a need that HAS to be met. We have a saying in the Sutton household, "You give that get right, you get that act right!" Which is a fancy way of saying, take care of my needs and I'll take care of your needs!
Put each other's needs first and selfishness goes bye-bye. This CC's Pieces can transform your relationship and take it to a new level if you and your mate can agree to implement it daily. Again, as with most of my advice, you have to make a conscious, intentional effort towards change!
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